Purity..it's not just for girls...

I love all the face book post, songs, etc about fathers cleaning their guns and such when a boy comes calling for their daughter.  I feel quite sure that my husband will enjoy tormenting some boy that exact way when my daughter is older.  But for now, I have a 17 year old son.  I care about his purity as much as any father cares for his daughter's.  I have always been perplexed by this weird double standard that exists.  If a teen age girl gets pregnant, she is called ugly names...but the boy is high-fived? Why is that?  How can we expect our girls to remain pure if we are patting our boys on the back with a "wink, wink" attitude as they leave for the prom?

I may not be sitting on the front porch cleaning a gun when my son and his girl leaves for a date, but believe you me, I am paying attention.  And I am going to be asking lots of questions of said girl...like..where do you go to church?  Where do you go to school?  What do your parents do? Where do you live?  Do your parents know where the two of you are going?  And if their destination is her home, you can better bet that I will be calling her parents as well.  And speaking of her parents..if said girl appears at my home several times, I will also be asking to meet them.  Why would I do that?  Because I want them to know that when they are in my home, they will spend time in my living room, not off behind closed doors.  I want them to know that I am also concerned with their daughters purity. 

I want God to bless the relationships that my children have, and I know that He will not do that when they are doing things out side of His plan for them. I want to give them boundaries that will help them take steps in the right direction. I know that even the best of teens, with the best of intentions can fall prey when left to their own devices. 

So, I imagine that if by chance my son, James, is reading this..he is mortified...but James if you are reading this, I love you with a love you will not understand until the day you hold your first born.  I pray even today for the women who will some day be your wife, and I pray that your decisions now only honor that future relationship....

Pondering.....